This is a post I have thought about writing almost every week. I’ve hesitated because the topic surrounds something negative and I don’t want to instill fear or create a forum for an entirely different discussion. However, every few week I see a fellow mom and blogger post something that makes me think maybe we should start sharing tips on how to put some best practices in place for when we do share pictures of our kids. I’ll be the first to admit that sharing pictures of your kids is a slippery slope. I went into my blog thinking that I was going to have cute fake names for my kids and never say their real names. But over time I grew more comfortable writing about them and more comfortable sharing moments form our lives. But with the ease of relaxed practices and falling into a groove it’s still our responsibility as mothers first to have a moment of reflection where we ask ourselves, what could be the implications of doing this and how can I minimize them?
If you are anything like me you spend the last hours before bed determined to do more crafts with the kids the next day. I tell myself, “I can totally be that mom who had education and adorable activities for my kids each day. Why can’t we have a house filled with elaborate Halloween decor all made by my 4 and 2 year old?” And then the next morning I wake up to find them trying to fill their play kitchen with water they harvested from the powder room sink that still running and remember exactly why that ideal is simply not us.
But rather than accepting defeat entirely, I’ve switched my pinning to look for the easiest, no fuss, little mess Halloween crafts that would work for preschoolers. Almost everything in these crafts are already in our home which means that I can just whip them out on the fly when I can tell our afternoon is about to take a turn for the worst. Because let’s face it, in my house I don’t need crafts as a dedicated preplanned morning activity but instead for the – no one took a nap but everyone actually needs one -afternoons.
Confession, I am the antithesis of a Type A personality. I am not particularly detail oriented or very organized. I am impatient, not rigid, I will hang out with you on a moment’s notice, I don’t know what’s for dinner until I open the fridge, and I’m not the type of mom to makes plans on Monday for Thursday. I decide on Thursday morning what we are going to do for the day and then probably make the rest of the days decisions along the way. But underneath what seems like an unsustainable lack of rigidity is a method that leaves me highly productive with what my friends characterize as an overflowing amount of energy. So what’s my method to maintaining what to most seems like I always have two days packed into one? Energy management.
When reading this, you first have to understand I’m not a particularly emotional person. I can probably count on one hand the times I have cried in the last decade. Despite my aversion to emotions, today in the company of veterinarian, I had a total meltdown. 4 years of the stress of motherhood, keeping it together and keeping my life on course came to a head and I turned into a sobbing mess of inadequacy, guilt and fear of failure.
Let’s face it, craft beer is to San Diego what wine is to Napa. San Diegan’s have loved beer long before we had our kids and long before it became trendy. So why, just because we now have kids, should we not be able to enjoy it in the same way we did before? Whether you are a local or a tourist, there is no reason why you should forgo a good brewery or favorite beer on tap just because the kids are in tow. Lucky for all of us parents, these awesome kid friendly breweries and restaurants are not only serving up great beer they are doing it with a laid back vibe that is welcoming to both beer and non-beer drinkers alike.